Daunting change, confusing change with deep underlying love, Lori Hedderman's new book, Preparing Your Children For Goodbye: A Guidebook for Dying Parents, is released.
At first one would wonder," Why a guide book for my acknowledged and pending death? It is total loss of my family structure, semblance of order and just let memories be what they may! " The attitude of "let's not talk about it" may prevail or simply "I do not know what to talk about."
What Hedderman's book does however is not forced, not prescribed but rather showcases opening ways to leave meaning and messages behind for your children. Ways to guide and support them in your absence and creative ideas to supply them with your personal history and thoughts.
The format is open, fresh and non threatening. This journey is not a solo one and the book engages others in this process as well. Not only are activities suggested but great resources from other organizations are referenced to gain further information on legal, ethical and emotional resources on end of life issues.
Lori's ideas resonate for any parent, whether terminally ill or not. What do you wish your children knew about you? What are your dreams for them and how does that compare with dreams for yourself at their age? What have you done with no regrets? What have you not completed in your bucket list?
My mother, in her mid seventies, picked the book up and though not terminally ill( and with a children in their 50's) found questions she wanted to answer and share with us and her grandchildren. Life review, your legacy, is never too late or too early to contemplate. It can open greater avenues for discussion, communication and exchange, in times when words may carry a heaviness.
This book is an inspiring resource for counselors, parents and caretakers of children and adolescence. You will gain insight into children and their response to coping with death and may even open your eyes to your own perceptions. Preparing Your Children For Goodbye is available on Amazon. This book advances the ability to address your own amazing legacy and help others to the same.