What do you hear from others within the loss experience? " Move On!" "Get out in nature." At the same time you hear comments of " Don't change anything during the first year." "Never move or sell your home." Keep your distance from this or that experience.
Nothing is complete in grief and nothing is static. Loss teaches us the lightness or heaviness of each moment and even creates pockets of numbness and observation.
The country song, with lyrics of " one step forward, two steps back" echoed as a gift to my ears in grief.
Other lyrics of " Life's a dance , you learn as you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow" inched me along.
Friends and loved ones' intentions are meant to keep you moving. Your loss is often their loss too maybe of dreams, friendship and the continuity in their lives.
Acknowledge where you wish to be placed and at imagine at what moment you wish to be there.
Grief , the dance, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow- It's all good. Move where you wish, forward, backwards, sideways , up or downwards. Just Move. Someone will be beside you.
Your partnering may change but keep moving. You are worth it!